Killjoy

 

No 

- loud noises

- bright lights

- strong smells

- air-conditioner

- conflict

Lots of 

- monologues that begin with 'Ideally...'

- pausing movies to spew ideas and take notes

- 'But that's too frivolous'

- cuddles in the thick of summer

Love

 

Update - 9Jun21

Been regretting the second venn. Specifically, if I had to do it over again, I'd scratch 'my mom' and write 'some folks in my life' in a way that a part of it falls in the second circle and a part in the intersection. 

On a related note, there's this interesting model called the Johari window - a couple mental notes on bridging the gulf in understanding: 

- When there are things you know about yourself that others don't and you'd like them to, self-disclose/make self-deprecating jokes

- When there are things you know about yourself that others don't and you'd like them not to, what kind of shady shit are you up to?

- To learn things about yourself you don't know, but others might, ask questions/overhear their gossip/pay attention to their jokes about you

- To unearth some great and some appalling stuff about yourself, explore the zone 'stuff about yourself neither you nor others know' (Psychology, art and introspection are great places to start)

- While encountering the above in other people, listen and empathize (I try 🤭)